There are many reasons you may seek a divorce after your children have moved out. You and your spouse may no longer agree on your goals, or you may have been waiting for your children to reach adulthood.
Now that it is time to move forward with a divorce, you may not consider the impact this change will have on your adult children.
Here’s what you should know about how adult children handle the news that their parents are getting a divorce.
There may still be blame
Over the years, your children have observed your interactions with your spouse and have likely drawn their own conclusions. While the news of a divorce may be a surprise, it will not take your children long to decide who is at fault.
Your children’s perceptions of your relationship are their own, and there is little you can do to change their minds about issues surrounding blame. In this situation, you may want to focus on the divorce as an opportunity for you and your ex to move forward.
Be ready to offer support
It can seem like all your loved ones are trying to pick sides throughout the divorce process. When it comes to your children, they will also have thoughts and feelings about this change.
It is essential to talk to your children about the divorce and offer your support. However, just as with younger children, it is crucial to remember that your ex is still your children’s other parent. Your children may wish to continue to have a positive relationship with both parents, and it is crucial to support that.