Few things can make you feel more alone than divorce. A longtime marriage is coming to an end, representing a life-changing event where uncertainty reigns.
Mediation is an effective way to resolve marital dissolution disputes, particularly when couples are not on the same page when it comes to custody. For many, the process represents a stark reality. Open conversations will occur over the best interests of your children in front of not only your ex-spouse but also a mediator who is essentially a stranger.
However, there is strength in numbers when someone close to you is there for support. Options include:
Attorney
An experienced advocate will help to prepare you and anticipate what will happen in the process. When the process starts, you can choose the level of involvement. They can wait outside the room and provide guidance as needed or talk on your behalf. Upon agreement of terms, a lawyer can ensure that your best interests have been served.
Attorney ad litem
Some people will need this level of service if they are disabled and have children. Their role is to help put together the pact and ensure that the terms are consistent with the best interests of your children and your specific situation.
Guardian ad litem
The job of a guardian ad litem is to represent the children of the divorcing couple. Their focus is on their bests interests and ensuring that they have a voice in the final agreement, whether they dispute the pact or agree with it.
A friend or relative
Someone close to you – aside from romantic partners and kids – can empathize with what you are enduring and make a complicated process somewhat more manageable. While they are not allowed to participate, they can be there to help them stay on track.
Some people going through divorce thrive on going at it alone, while others need a helping hand and a listening ear. As you face a new chapter in your life, remember that you don’t have to take that all-important first step on your own.
