Going through a divorce is often a difficult, frustrating time, full of a roller coaster of emotions. Whether there are kids involved, you have been married for two years or 20, or you have minimal assets or millions of dollars, your future is at stake. As you move through your divorce, there are certain things you must avoid to protect yourself.
Social media makes it easy to vent your frustrations and feelings, and get supportive feedback from those who understand you and support you. Unfortunately, social media can also affect your divorce proceedings if you make any of the following five mistakes.
1. Don’t play dirty tricks
Even after the marriage ends, you likely have friends and acquaintances who remain with both of you on social media. If your ex-spouse claims not to be able to afford spousal support or child support but then posts pictures of the latest vacation to Mexico, this is a clear sign that someone is playing dirty tricks. Refrain from doing this yourself.
2. Refrain from oversharing
Before you hit share or post, remember that whatever you put on the internet stays there forever. During your divorce, do your best to keep your posts and profile as free from drama as possible. Think of who you are friends with from a personal and professional standpoint, and consider what you want them to know about your marriage’s end.
3. Be careful with what you share in text and email form
Emails and text messages are commonly used today to communicate with friends and family. As you share information, remember that your social media activity, emails and texts may be subpoenaed and used against you when possible.
4. Stay away from stalking your ex
If the divorce has been painful and emotionally messy, it is tempting to follow your former spouse around the internet to see what they are doing and who they are doing it with. Remember that as you work to move on and let go, the things you see as you spy on your ex can set you back miles in terms of your mental and emotional health.
5. Refrain from bashing your ex
If you feel you have been wronged and want validation, it is easy to turn to social media to share all the ways your ex has let you down. Before doing this, think of how it will appear to your friends and other acquaintances, and be particularly careful if your children are on the same platform. It may be a good idea to walk away from the post and come back rather than posting when you are angry.
Going through a divorce is rarely an easy process. If you want to make sure your bases are covered and you are handling yourself appropriately, meet with an attorney today.